God has ministered to me about this wall and I want to pass on the lesson. Everyone has a wall. Let's call this wall, Gatekeeper. Gatekeeper is a faithful guardian. Gatekeeper makes sure that what you do doesn't bring you into God's rest. Gatekeeper smiles at us as we buck against her with all our might, trying to break through to what's on the other side: achievement, fulfillment, success, wholeness, happiness, health, affluence, freedom from addiction, contentment etc. She smiles as our sweat pours out down her cool, smooth exterior, pooling to the floor. She is relentless, absolutely unforgiving of our push. The harder we push, the cooler she behaves, and just smiles at us.
You see, there is a pushing that comes from an understanding of the law-- from understanding that I have
to do something in order to have what I desire. Yet, still there is a push which comes from understanding grace-- from understanding that I have
to receive something in order to see what I desire manifest. There is a pushing that comes from reliance on me and there is a pushing that comes from a reliance on Him. The pushing which relies on me produces nothing. If anything, it produces frustration because nothing yields, nothing really gives. The pushing which relies on Him produces after His kind and bears the fruit of His blessing. The pushing which relies on Him manifests the finished work of Christ on the scene of my life.
How could I know the difference between pushing in my strength and pushing in His? For me, the differene was defined as I got more acquainted with His Person and My Personality. As I grew, I began to understand who His Person is inside me as compared to a Personality inside me with entirely opposing traits. As both this Person and this Personality became more distinct, more delineated, I became more passionate toward the One and aware of the opposing nature of the other. This is different from knowing 'right from wrong', this brings change and transformation into your life, not condemnation. It became easier, natural, for action and behavior to flow from His Person--- it wasn't a choice. As I gained exposure to Him, His behavior flowed from me increasingly. I was able to push because there was a force of character behind it that was bigger than me and bigger than my little 'will' which I had so relied on in the past. My will is a dead force, even what it can achieve, when anything, never sustains. His will, on the other hand, is a Person and in that Person is a compelling force which thrusts out living water onto your life manifesting fruit for fare.
What am I saying? I'm saying the will we've always wanted does not exist as we may have pursued it. Will-power which roots in self does not exist in the Kingdom. Any objectives pursued on will-power will run out of gas. Human will-power requires something of man, a limited resource-- man/ourselves is no resource at all and we will fall short of meeting our needs to get the job done. God's Will-power is not a natural substance, a natural conviction in our minds that we have to nurse, but a forceful Person within us who cannot be defeated, altered or compromised by circumstance. His Will-power can't be increased or decreased and it certainly doesn't give out because it is a Person at essence.
Consider it this way, I can cross a desert with a water flask or I can run a river through the desert. God ran a River through you to fund all your activities. His River in you is an endless Source and supplier. Your water flask of self-effort, or brow-beating labor is the end of you. Throw out that old flask. It can't produce the yield, the fruit or harvest. The River is already rich because Jesus paid for you to have endless supply. He doesn't want you exhausting yourself. He wants you receiving Himself from within you to water all your life's endeavors. Only in receiving His grace will you find the Power to flourish and that power is not your own. Only when you forsake what you can do will there be freedom to discover what He has done. Only when you slide down the wall does the pressure of your self-reliance give way to discovery of something beyond what you can do. You can't go on vacation until you stop working. You can't work and rest. I don't know the key to discovery, as it seems most have to hit the wall and die before they truly see the Grace that provides all things for them. When you cease from your work of being your own Savior, you'll find Him and boy can He push His quality of life into your chaos and bring order. Your labor is not to sustain yourself, but to fight off working for yourself so that you can receive His work as finished.
I hope this helps. This is the best I have to offer for right now.